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Why Strict Parenting Doesn’t Work—And What to Do Instead

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Parenting tweens and teens can feel like navigating a minefield. Just when you think you’ve got things figured out, their natural drive for independence kicks in. Suddenly, they’re pushing back against your rules, questioning your values, and asserting themselves in ways that can feel frustrating or even defiant. If you’ve looked for advice on how to handle this stage, you’ve probably come across the same old recommendations: "As a parent, you need to control your child’s behavior." "Ground them when they step out of line." "Take their phone away so they know who’s boss." "Remove their bedroom door so they can’t hide anything from you." "Strip their room down to just a bed—then they’ll learn." These methods rely on control, punishment, and dominance. The goal? To make kids obey. But here’s the truth:  Children don’t learn respect through punishment. They learn fear, resentment, and how to go behind your back to get what they want.  Inst...

Too Tired for Self-Care? The Single Mom’s Guide to Recharging (Without More To-Do’s)

If you’re a single mum, you’ve probably heard that self-care is all about bubble baths and candles. But let’s be real—when you’re raising kids, running a household, and juggling everything alone, self-care feels impossible. This is why we need to rethink it. As single mothers, raising kids, running a household and being the sole income earner with financial obligations coming out of every orifice (pardon my French!) - on top of everything else going on in our world - we often give our power away by focussing solely on everyone else’s needs and ignore our own. And I think we often know it too, but are at loss for how to change things for the better. You’ve probably been told that ‘self-care’ means taking a long walk, doing yoga, or lighting a candle. And sure, those things sound great. But when you’re a single mum, you don’t have the luxury of ‘pausing’ life for a spa day - or adding a heap of items to your to-do list And these things are just fantastic and, by all means, choose one or ...